Personal update: I just got a huge promotion... so blessed, but crazy busy!
I’m a size 22 normally but when I go shopping there are some items that don’t fit right. Someone suggested that I go up a size, but I just can’t do it. I know it could be a number of things- the cut of the item, the material, anything - but buying a size or two up really bothers me. It's hard to explain but I hope you understand. Any advice?
Jada (Providence, RI)
Numbers have a funny way of affecting us...
The short answer ... It’s a process. Anyone, at any size doesn’t like to have to go up a size when shopping, those numbers on that little tiny tag can have a profound effect on your psyche. The number on the garment is just that.. a number - it doesn’t take into account an individual’s hips, curves and basically what makes your body different from others. However, if something that's your regular size doesn’t fit “right” then you have to weigh the options. Not easy, I know. I'll use myself as an example, I used to passionately hate having to buy clothes a size or two up just for them to fit me correctly – but then in hit me.. there is a huge difference between fit and flatter. Who wants to wear clothes that fit, but is uncomfortable and doesn’t do your body justice? (If you can't sit, eat or breathe that's a sign). If going up a size or two allows for the item to flatter your figure, then that's a go. (Fit vs. Flatter) Next time you go shopping, take a good friend.. find something you like and grab your normal size, the size above and the size above that. Try them all on and take note of which size flatters your features the best; remember that a simple dart (courtesy of a tailor) here and there can work wonders. Remind yourself that you are spending money on not what "fits" but what "flatters" and makes you look your best. A number shouldn't dictate your look... good luck!
Do you deal with the same problem? What exactly bothers you about going up a size? Any more words of advice for Jada?
~Luvin' My Curves