FOX try again: A Guy's View on "More to Love"

Good Morning Everyone,

Today's post is from Neil - he made some waves here when he wrote a piece earlier this summer(click here) and now he's back to give us a lil' opinion on FOX's "More to Love".... as always he loves a great discussion so make sure to leave some comments. :)

LMC made me watch "More to Love", actually I wanted to watch it- at least one episode to see just how FOX would mess up a totally overdue and great concept. I hate to admit but I've been watching every episode since the 1st one- it's like a train wreck on a woman's self-esteem but I'm intrigued to keep watching because I want to see how low this show will go.

I'm not cool with the exploitation of these women's insecurities, the tears, the angst all over a guy you don't even know - I personally find this scary. If a woman was acting like this after she just met me- I'd be plotting my exit strategy. I know it's a dating show and from what I've previewed on other shows it's "normal" but still, not a good look. I'm not a woman so I can't say I know exacty how these women feel, but if the wounds are that deep why put yourself on TV with the possibility that you may not be the "one"?

The ladies on the show are beautiful, but when they talking about all the things they havn't done because of their weight- I get numb. I've been around beautiful and confident full-figured women, who have lived their lives- they were in the middle of the dance floor at prom, they travel, they smile and enjoy life . I know every woman may not feel the same way, but FOX was dead wrong for casting women (acting or not) in which most if not all of them havn't really lived life because of their weight. (Note: Let me point out, like the full-figured lady at the lounge in the corner who doesn't want to talk or dance, these ladies made the choice not to go out and live life- us men see that and most of us will not approach) Show me a woman who loves herself and who lives her life and that's the kind of woman I want on my arm- not one who is holding on for dear life!!


What this tells me is that these women will build their confidence, self-esteem and sense of beauty around the affections of Luke? (who is corny!!!) Maybe it's weird hearing this from a guy but I don't want a female to build her sense of esteem around my actions - she should have that before I meet her. I'm only human, I'm by no means perfect so that's alot of pressure when someone's sense of worth is based on what you do. What if I don't call you back immediately, or do anything else that sets you off, what if at the worst we break up ? What happens then?

One the ladies last night said that she never told her aspirations to any of her ex-boyfriends because she was fat and she thought they thought she was ugly .I looked at my roomates (I bribed my roomates to watch with me) like "What? If I thought you were unattractive to me I wouldn't be your man, and futhermore if you think your man doesn't see you as beautiful why are you with him?"Last, but not least, don't cry or talk to me about your ex's on a FIRST date- our 1st date should be a chance for us to have fun and get to know each other better. Am I off base for saying that?

These are just my thoughts on the show. I know it's a "reality" show which doesn't hold much "reality" weight anymore but FOX has chosen the wrong wrong to sadly satisfy the stereotypes of ignornant people who truly believe that all plus size women feel this way.


I'm all ears...let's talk