Last night. More to Love. (blank sarcastic stare)
I really, REALLY wanted to support this show, it was unprecedented and long overdue. However, many of you brought me back down to reality by reminding me that:
1. It was a TV reality dating show (which are always hectic) &
2. It was on Fox.
So like many of you, I was just waiting for the premier to see what would occur.
When I went to the Brooklyn Casting Call, I told you all about the beautiful and confident ladies I met - so a small part of me hoped "yes, there will be happy women on this show". (previous post here) So, needless to say I threw a fit (and a Twitter attitude fest) last night during the premiere of Fox's "More to Love".
- Why was the ladies' weight shown next to their name? The promos talk about Real Women finding love, so where did their weight come into play?
- The tears.... yes, dating can be hard for some. I myself, find dating to be an "interesting journey" as there are guys who won't date or seriously date a plus size woman. However, the show is not the answer.. 20 guys vying for 1 man... 19 of them will go home single - you're better off gaining confidence and doing YOU so the tears flowing as if this bachelor was your only hope... stop. Let's be real some of us have been in these situations... some of us are still there & some have never been.. I guess Fox is just capitalizing on it all- but geez!
- The Bachelor - he was eating this up....and what man wouldn't if 20 women were vying for your attention all at once.It was actually comedic listening to him flirting with these ladies, because it was sooo corny..... but I was here rolling my eyes at the ladies reaction and telling myself "it's all for TV, it's all for TV". It was as if one compliment and they were ready marry him and have his kids!
I've always been the "fat girl" out of my friends and back in the day, I swore my weight was the reason I didn't have a stream of guys to talk about. But my weight never dictated what I did, I went to BOTH of my proms!! So when these ladies speak on never doing this or that, I stop looking at the men's attitudes and I look at the ladies themselves. Perhaps because YOU played the weight card all the time on yourself you chose to limit yourself to not enjoy your own life. A man may spice things up, but he will not complete my life - he will not build confidence in me that I should already have in myself- Neil touched on this last month and we all saw it right there last night.
Now.... to be fair there is not a single dating/bachelor type show that does not put a women's vulnerability, sometimes craziness on display. (Think Bachelor, Flavor of Love, etc) However, none of their advertising campaigns relied on size and confidence, only to seem to bash that in the show. The very thing you used to draw viewers in was convoluted into something pathetic.... and for that many folks were justifiably riled up. Not a good look Fox!
I will say this.. some of them are acting but for some, this is their reality....
A reality show should NEVER be your "last attempt" to find love- life your life and love YOU!
Fox, let's not sensationalize low self-esteem......you may not have gotten the memo but confidence is sexy.
Did you see the show last night, what did you think?
~Luvin' My Curves
9 comments:
I've read your blog for awhile but never commented.
I watched the show last night and I was highly disappointed in it. As a PSP (sooo not a princess!!) I felt sorry for these girls more than anything. These girls put everything on the line (One girl even quit her job to be on the show!!!) and for what? The guy wasn't even all that. He was eating it up and like you said, I don't blame him. Any man would. But I think they could have at least gotten a good looking ripped eye candy for the girls to fight over.
I think it was a huge FAIL for the first episode. I probably will give it another shot but for first impressions, it did not give me more to love. Just more the same to hate on.
I'm still scratching my head...
What was with the tears????
anyway, please answer some of the questions on my post today-- I need help!
xoxo
I refused to watch it...I was already pissed with the previews...
Just cuz I'm a "big girl" I have to have a big guy? I don't think so...why couldn't they have a Brad Pitt/Denzel/Tyson/Antonio (you get the idea, insert sexy man here) who likes women with curves?
and even better, why not have one "big girl" with lots of fine men fighting over her...
and as far as big men go, that's the best they could do? insulted much? I was....
I have never considered myself to be plus sized....I think I'm even in denial about my size....I was a10, until about a year and a half ago when i had my daughter....now I'm a solid 16...(with a jiggly center lol) but regardless of whether I'm a 6 or 16, I deserve greatness, and what they offered on that show wasn't even mediocre...
ok, my rant is done...
The influx of plus-size focused shows, (thought I'd be intrigued) ... has not been impressive, including this one. I was so turned off by the need to post their weight in their intros ... That's what TBL is for!?! ... lol ... I really didn't get the signficance in that, we can see they are "more to love". They were re-capping the show on CoJ MSNBC this morning, and after they played the clip of the bachelor "flirting" cheesily ... everyone's reaction after an awkward pause was "creepy" ... I had to turn the tv, couldn't force myself to make it through the entire show thing. And the tears! I mean, come on!
Sarah, I was thinking the same thing about the choice of bachelor. I have dated a variety of male types but most of them were way more attractive than this guy. No offense but couldn't they get some smart accomplished eye candy that likes curves?
I couldn't even watch it - not interested. I hat these tv shows that only want to take advantage of plus people.
That show was a heaping pile of doo doo. I wanted to commit suicide when the first tears was shed. I have been a fat chick since birth and I have never found it difficult to find someone "willing" to date me. It was so offensive that they looked for women that a that down on themselves. The reality is that dating is hard on everyone. A lack of self esteem makes it harder.
I know a gang of big girls and the attitude that these women displayed was no indicative of the way we are in reality. I am just disgusted. UGH
Unfortunately, someone I knew was on that show and she went home on the first episode. It was ridiculous to watch that foolery and even worse I was sitting across the table from her.
I felt awkward cause I wanted to go on my reality-tv-ruined-the-art-of-writing-for-tv. now we don't have real trained actors but, ppl. with no talent looking for their 15 minutes of fame. I wanted to tell my friend to never let her self esteem get so low that she competes on a mediocre reality show for an even less than mediocre looking guy on a station that clearly as the post stated, "wanted to sensationalize low self-esteem". GDS
Next time, add in weigh loss for the girls and the one guy. Also add in some thin girls and then see who he picks. It would make it a lot more interesting.
Sally
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