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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

The return of the Lumberjack....

Good Morning!

What's the one fall trend that you're seeing all over the place?

Plaid!

No longer just for the lumberjack B-girl outfit (Yo-Yo, Patra,etc), it feels like "plaid" is one of the "it" looks for the fall. What I love about the new "lumberjack chic" is that you can find prints beyond the traditional red/black or white/black combo - bold color combinations put into plaid have an amazing effect. Wear it in a dress, coat, a tunic with leggings- even a solid color outfit with plaid shoes- check it out!




Plaid Boyfriend Cardigan (click for the ingredients to the boyfriend look here) $31.90, Alloy












Green Check Coat, ~$107, Evans; Plaid Pea Coat, $59, Ashley Stewart









Like most prints plaid is best done in moderation, this is the perfect case of where too much of a good thing can be bad. Have fun!!


~Luvin' My Curves

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Monday, November 2, 2009

What J is Jonesin' For: November

Good Morning!!

So.. two months into the new job and the entire school now knows about Luvin' My Curves... it was a small secret between me and some of my students who googled me. But in the new faculty profile spread of the school paper, instead of mentioning my law work and all the other academic stuff they focused on LMC, hahaha.

Just because I'm employed now doesn't mean I've gone totally shopping crazy- I'm doing my best to resist the urge to shop and make up for lost time, it's hard!!! What I've been doing is buying two affordable pieces a paycheck- one piece I need ( a closet essential) and one fun piece I want.

This month- I decided to cave in to one of my "jonesins'".. for change- I got hi-lites that in my opinion are waaaaaay too bright but everyone seems to love it- I'll post pics soon.


This edition of Jonesin' is excruciating, because most of these pieces are in my shopping carts already just waiting for my card number...help!! I've been lusting over all types of stuff, shoes, coats, jewelry- anything that will comfortably allow me to stand out up here. (Trust me, I stand out for so many other reasons but I'll focus on the fashion here!) Let's get to it...


On a recent day trip home I ran into Payless to check out the Christian Siriano line...I got these flats (good look mom!)




and now I want these heels!





I'm also jonesin' for a cute coat, actually I want a couple of them-it's cold out here!!



Short Wool-Blend Coat $82, Old Navy (I'd wait until this goes on sale)

and these runner ups, I've wanted to put a purple coat in my "arsenal" for years now! Which one would you choose?




Purple Military Coat (~$122) , Purple Funnel Coat (~$107) (both from Evans); Purple Tiered Coat (~$90), Dorothy Perkins

The problem is that the new job is not the average 9 to 5- not many places to go for afterwork drinks... let alone trendy places that deserve me to dress up. So when I make purchases, I know that many wont be shown off until weekends off campus. Always adding more dresses to my closet- I like this one for weekend's off campus...




I've definitely been going for the dresses that hug me in all the right places- nothing wrong with that. I NEED THIS DRESS IN MY LIFE!!!!I don't know what for and I really don't care... I need it thanks.



My go-to earrings are hoops.. but these earrings are very stylish for the days when I want to pin my hair up and add some flair.


Vintage Style Oversized Pearl clip-on studs with rhinestone surround 9GBP (~$14), Asos

What are you all jonesin' for this month?

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Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Does He Have a Fat Fetish?

Good Morning!

If you've never read her blog before you just need to! I consider The Big Girl Blog and it's heroine CeCe to be one of my "blogging sisterfriends". Her blog touches on topics that I'm sure has been on our minds at one point or another. If you're the only curvy girl in your crew, TBGB islike the talking to the plus size friend you never had who understands, enjoy!!

It was a Saturday night and I was running late.

After spending what seemed like forever in the hair salon, I had rushed home with just enough time to jump in the shower and do a quick turnaround for my date with Eric. Eric was a thirty-something native New Yorker who owned an IT consulting firm in Chelsea. We met online a few months back and had been playing phone tag for a while. The plan for the evening was dinner and an independent film in the west village, so I kept it simple with a navy blue bubble dress that hit just above the knee and a pair of bronze wedges.

Dinner went well, with easy conversation and laughs, so when we sat down for the movie I felt like I would probably give Eric a second date. When Eric reached over and took my hand, I thought it was sweet. When he draped his arm around my shoulders, I thought it was a little much for a first date-- but pretty harmless. A few minutes later, when he started massaging the back of my arm, I started to tense up. Any PSP (Plus Size Princess) knows that the back of the arm can be a very flabby part of our bodies and for me it is one of the areas that I'm most self conscious about. I started squirming and adjusting in my seat, thinking he would get the hint and stop, but he just continued kneading the back of my arm like it was dough.

At first I thought maybe he was just being affectionate, but it felt like he enjoyed exploring my fat. I sat forward in my seat, thinking that he would move his arm. Instead, he let his arm drop behind my waist and began to massage my love handles. Finally, I took his hand and moved it away from me completely.
I sat there trying to put my finger on what was making me feel so gross. I can be a very affectionate person and I love when men are affectionate with me, but this didn't feel right. I didn’t feel feminine, sexy or wanted as I usually do when a man embraces me. Instead, Eric's touch made me feel acutely aware of my size, my weight, my shape and my trouble spots. Trying not to ruin the evening, I did my best to focus on the movie. That's when Eric slid down in his seat, wrapped his arms around me and placed his head on my stomach; making me feel like a human pillow. It was an unnatural and very awkward move and there was no way he could even watch the movie in that position, but he seemed determined to do it.

I started to wonder if... he had a fat fetish.

The definition of fetish is: a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends, to an abnormal degree, on some object, item of clothing or part of the body.Judging from the way Eric’s energy changed when he touch the fleshiest parts of me, I was pretty sure that Eric had a sexual desire for the abnormal amount of fat on my body.

"Please get off of me," I hissed.
He sat up and leaned into my ear.
"I'm sorry, it’s just that you're so sexy... how much do you weigh?"

I could feel my face getting hot with a mix of embarrassment and anger. I've never had a compliment make me feel so terrible. I told Eric I was going to the ladies room and instead walked out the door of the movie theater and never looked back. When I got home I had a voicemail and three text messages from Eric, asking where I was, I deleted them all.

While this was the first time I had encountered someone like this personally, it was not the first time I had observed it. In my time spent in the
BBW club scene, I've noticed that there are men who are fascinated with the plus size body, but never the girl inside.

I wanted to wrap my head around what it meant to be fettishized, so I did a little research. Some of the more common male fetishes are breasts, legs, hair and feet. Thinking back, the majority of the men I've dated have been "breast men". I went out with a "leg man" who would drive with one hand on the steering wheel and the other on my thigh. I've let plenty of guys play with my hair and even let one boyfriend massage my feet, paint (and even suck on) my toes. Clearly, I've dated men with fetishes before, and while I would be equally as offended if a man asked to look at my feet or touch my legs on a first date, I still had to ask myself why I, a fat girl, was so offended by a man who had a sexual desire for... my fat.

Why was it okay for a man to be sexually attracted to parts of my body, but not my body as a whole?
Maybe it’s because I know that while sexual attraction is important, it isn’t enough. I’ve seen too many men who enjoy sleeping with big women, but would never consider dating one. I’ve seen too many PSP’s start a physical relationship with a man and then wait in vain for it to blossom into something more. I guess the difference between Eric and the other men I’ve dated is that those fetishes came to the light after our emotional connection was established. I never felt like my breasts, legs or feet were the only reason they wanted me in their lives.

At the end of the day, I can’t accept a man who wants to get acquainted with my body faster than he gets acquainted with me.

Thanks CeCe!! Make sure to read the blog and follow her on twitter!


Note from LMC: I can't tell you how many times I've met guys who seemed cool but then their interest was all about my weight, unacceptable. On one end you have the guys who won't date you because you're plus size and then on the other end you have the guys who are obsessed with it. Have you come across a man with a "fat fetish", how does it make you feel and how do you deal?

~Luvin' My Curves

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Monday, October 19, 2009

Dress Me: Get a Leg Up!

Good Morning!



Snow flurries in October?? Who else is giving a sideeye to the weather?


Today's question comes from Emily- she writes "I see girls in cute tights all the time, and I wanted to know if there are any 'non-plain' options for us big girls? My thighs are big and usually I'm squeezing into tights fearful that I'll rip them. I'm tired of wearing just black or brown, what are your suggestions?"

YES Emily... there are tight options for those of us who are thick in the thighs! Cute and colorful tights are a definite trend for this fall - lucky for us there are now options for us to rock the colorful, patterned trends as before we didn't have a choice.


Lace Patterned Tights, $12.99, One Stop Plus


What's fun about tights is the "POP" factor, a normally blase dress has the ability to be transformed by a brightly colored or patterned pair of tights. (and we thought tights were just about functionality? nope!)


If patterns scare you try them in subtle soft colors first... also try to make the tights the background of your outfit instead of the main event wear them under skirts and boots. Also, layer them up - a bright color under fishnets is a good 2 for 1 event. Also, keep your clothes simple... an outfit that is loaded with patterns might clash with bright, patterned tight.

One trick I've learned is that the sizing is super tricky- those height and weight charts tend NOT to account that most of us are endowed in the bottom end - my suggestion: try the size up if you can to account for more space

Take a look at some options and show some leg!

Get a Leg Up!


Here are some sites for you to shop around:

We Love Colors (they have colored fishnets too!)
Torrid
Dorothy Perkins - might fit a size 14, not sure!
Hue (runs on the smaller size, but worth a look)
Lane Bryant
One Stop Plus
Avenue

~Luvin' My Curves

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Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Plus-Sized & Fit

Good Morning!


There’s a nasty rumor out there that if you’re plus size then you’re automatically not healthy- NOT TRUE! Though one may not see a lot of us plus size ladies in the gym doesn’t mean we aren’t taking steps to be healthier and happier in our curves. I’m a firm believer that in order to truly love the skin you’re in you have to take care of YOU inside and out… I asked bootcamp extraordinaire Ms. Aja Davis to take the reins today , enjoy!

Plus-Sized and Fit
by Aja Davis
You know you should do it. Maybe even twice a day. I mean it ma
kes you feel so good, works up a good sweat and leaves you high for the rest of the day (or night). And the more you do it, the more you want to do it. It's even good for your skin. Some even do it with their sock on. Get you mind out of the gutter! I'm talking about working out! Yes, sex may be a way to work up a sweat but it is no substitute for the gym or a great exercise class. Many in the plus community, however, simply do not get enough exercise. There are many reasons for this but the main one I come across with many of my clients is fear. Fear of being ostracized or not fitting in at your gym or aerobics class. Repeatedly, I hear the same complaint, 'exercise just isn't for me.' And it's completely understandable to feel this way. The super thin and fit twenty-somethings that fill cardio rooms and exercise classes may seem to scream “If you're plus -sized, this is not for you!” And when you do actually make it into the gym, the fashionistas' icy stares pierce into you as if to say, “What are you doing here?” It is incredibly ironic. You want to get in shape, are aware of the need to lead a healthier lifestyle, and yet are made to fear the very avenues that lead to that end. So instead, you perfect your strut, surround yourself with other's who claim indifference and continue on with your life, perhaps sinking further and further into your own denial about your health and well-being.

Well, I'm hear to tell you that the denial has to stop. Stop lying to yourself! You may love your curves, but huffing and puffing up the subway stairs is not fun. Neither is being short on energy to enjoy your life, go out dancing, keep up with your girlfriends at the shopping mall, go bike riding, or whatever else tickles your fancy. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that everyone should want or needs to be a sized 2. In fact, many of my strongest clients are plus-sized and have no desire to be Jennifer Aniston.

You can have your curves and your health and I'll show you a few ways to do just that. Being afraid, unmotivated, or uninterested in exercise and leading a healthy lifestyle is not an option for those blessed with voluptuous curves. The added weight puts you at a higher risk of heart attack, heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure and cholesterol, joint pain and arthritis just to name a few. Being on a regular exercise program can help to mitigate and even prevent all those things, not to mention make your sex life better. And wouldn't it feel great to buy that dress even just one size smaller?

Here are some ways I encourage my plus-sized clientele to start being active and commit to a healthy lifestyle.

1. Find a buddy. Starting an exercise or nutrition program is much easier and much more fun when you have someone to do it with. Plus, it's easier to hold each other accountable. If none of your friends are interested, branch out. Try asking coworkers, maybe post a sign at your local grocery store or church. If you're on a neighborhood listserv, try posting for a workout buddy there.

2. Join my bootcamp. Shameless, I know, but seriously. I've created a bootcamp geared towards the needs of the plus community. People are friendly here and are incredible motivators for each other. Plus, you'll see serious results and when you graduate the program I'll buy you a pair of skinny jeans or a convertible dress by Monif C. Check it out at www.newbodybootcampnyc.com
3. Do something that you enjoy. If exercise is a chore, you feel embarrassed or dread going, you won't stick with it in the long run. The goal should be to find something that you can sustain for more than a week or two. Ideally, you want something you can enjoy for months or years to come.

4. Drink more water. This is a tip I always give no matter what. People simply do no drink enough. And water affects everything from mood, to weight, to appetite to digestion. To know how much water you should be drinking take your weight and divide it by 2. That will give you the number in ounces of how much water you should drink on a daily basis. Ex. If you weigh 200lbs/2 = 100oz of water A DAY!

5. Find a nutrition plan that works for you. The most important part, even more important that exercise is what you put in your body. Think about it like this: our cells are literally made up from the food we eat. That old saying you are what you eat is much truer than you may realize. If you eat a lot of junk, your cells build themselves off of junk and you start to look and feel much like the junk your eating. If you eat more fresh vegetables and unprocessed foods, you look and feel much lighter and happier because your cells are building themselves from things that truly nourish the body. Whether it's counting calories, weighing food, or a more holistic approach find what works for you and stick with it.

Being Plus-sized does not mean you can't or shouldn't exercise and think about your health. You just have to find the right program for you. With a little persistence and effort you will soon be on your way to a healthier, more active lifestyle.


Aja Davis is a certified personal trainer in Brooklyn, NY and owner of New Body Bootcamp & Wellness where she works with a variety of clientele, including many plus sized women and men.

Please share, How do stay active? What if anything, do you think you could improve on health-wise?


~Luvin’ My Curves… Workin’ It Out!

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Monday, October 12, 2009

Every Girl needs some Pearls....

Good Morning!!!

Double Strand Pearl Necklace, $85 Toccata, Etsy (this designer also has single & triple strand necklaces)

So... pearls...every girls needs some!! They are one of the ULTIMATE accessories; can you imagine the one piece of jewelry that can instantly glam up anything- think of pearls are the LBD of the accessory world.

Single or double stand, choker or loose - pearls through uniform in appearance allow for you to tap into your own creativity in how to wear them. Mix lengths (a la Rihanna, below) , go "dramatic" with an all black suit, or go "demure" with a single strand, a-line skirt, simple cardigan and flats or funk them up like I do - mixing them with chunky multicolor chains, scoop neck t's jeans and platforms. The choice is yours...

Glory Pearl Necklace, $6.80, Forever 21 ; Rihanna mixes lengths- taking the classic to a new level
Don't worry about the cost- pearls are a piece of jewelry that you should feel comfortable with buying a good imitation... (Jackie O' wore a fake strand that years after her death were sold for thousands!)


If you're not sold on the necklace, start slow... pearl studs add instant class to any outfit.

Set of 24 Pearl Studs, assorted colors $1.99 Fabuless.com

I know many of you think that pearls are snobby or only for older women, but I'm telling you pearls are timeless and work for any woman rich or broke, young and old. What was once seen as a sign of privilege and elitism is now for everyone!
Want some more? Check out :

What do you think of pearls? How do you wear them?
~Luvin' My Curves

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Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Things that make me smile... Glamour & Fat Love

Good Morning!

I love being happy, I love to smile and I especially love when there are things out there that celebrate instead of tear down the fact I love me, extra curves, and all.


I love that Glamour celebrates "normal" women with this beautiful photo shoot...


There's also a really interesting article about this over on Glamour. (I peeped the "hint" of diversity in this spread, could have done better on this part but I still applaud the main point of the shoot.)


The Museum of Fat Love started by Fatshionista triggers the hopeless romantic in me (especially after the More to Love "I won't love ME until someone else does" debacle). Yes, we love too and this is a developing collection that there are people who love curves in happy relationships, they are also accepting pictures from individuals, so if you've made that journey from self-loathing to self-love then this would be a really cool project to participate in, your words just might be the thing that someone else needs to see.


(courtesy of Museum of Fat Love)
What are your thoughts on this?

~Luvin' My Curves...smiling!

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